I spend my time in the company of many men.
Oh Jesus…that is not supposed to sound nearly so “I rent hotel rooms by the hour”.
We’re off to a good start here. *ahem*
Dudes - I hang out with a lot of them. I like to play video games; talk about sci-fi and politics; and have a dark sense of humor - these are all things that I find more commonly in men than I do in women (please forgive me for making gender-biased generalizations).
Plus, men are just nicer to look at ;-)
This is always how my life has been and it’s been pretty damn good for the most part. But the problem with this is that at all times, there's almost always someone stuck in… drum roll please…
The Friend Zone
Those of you who have lived in some mythical fairyland where the people you lust after lust after you equally - or who have been happily married since you were five-years-old - might not really understand the consequences of being in The Friend Zone.
The Friend Zone is that dreadful limbo where you are stranded after meeting the man/woman of your dreams. You begin to fantasize about a life together - a life filled with shared XboxLive accounts; couples' vacations to Comi-Con; and finally living that Han Solo/Princess Leia fantasy.
But then reality sinks in and instead of falling passionately in love, you fall madly into a brotherly friendship where high fives are the closest you’re going to get to bumpin and grindin.
We’ve all been there. Every single one of us has at one point or another been in The Friend Zone. I think I can also say with confidence that we have all, at some time in our lives put someone in The Friend Zone.
None of us enjoy being there but we all tolerate it. Why?
We tolerate it because being granted with the company of the object of our affections is better than being shunned by him/her altogether. And we just know that time - sigh - time is all we need. We'll keep plodding along with the “friendship”. We'll keep dropping everything and everyone to spend five minutes with our Friend. We just know that if we're able to keep up the “friendship” that one day the stars will align and he/she will realize the mad love he/she has for us after all!
Because that's the beauty of The Friend Zone; it's never really about the friendship, it's about hope. It’s about the hope that one day they will see you the way you see them.
So we live on in this charade of "friendship" and continue to pine away; chipping away at our souls bit by bit each day.
We laugh awkwardly and smash TVs whenever they mention a new romantic interest. We hope that one day they’ll be drunk enough to awkwardly make out with us and awaken the sexual tension that has been brewing for years. When we are on vacation, we dream about the return flight and how they’ll be waiting at the gate for us with tears in their eyes and a sign that says “Friendship Isn’t Enough”.
We’re waiting for that grand awakening moment.
Whether or not that day ever comes, I can guarantee you that it will never happen if you just continue to hang on to your fantasy. Maybe it’ll happen, maybe it won’t. But sitting around, waiting for that person to finally come to their senses is only hurting you in the long run. They aren’t ready to wake up and see the awesomesauce that is you.
But someone else is.
I can guarantee you that someone else out there right now is looking for the Princess Peach to their Mario. But you’re not going to see them if you keep holding on to your fantasies about your Friend.
Get out of The Friend Zone and throw your hot ass back into the world of single, smart, beautiful people just waiting to throw you against the wall and have their way with you until Happily Ever After.
PS – You really have no idea how many “hand job” jokes I had to edit out of this piece. I’m trying to class this joint up. You’re welcome.